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I’m JW and i stay with my parents. Today is tough day for me. Today i have to tell them that i dont want to continue being a JW. I shit scared. Anyhelp on how to tackle this situation; what to tell my parents would be appreciated.

Luckily, my father was a little “worldly” with his thoughts and he didn’t like the fact that I decided not to go to university when I’ve been to one of the best schools in the area and I can easily get into top unis. And since he’s one of the bosses of a company, everyone expects his children to be in good unis. So I am attending uni and I can’t believe I didn’t even consider it as an option a few years back. But I did pursue a degree that would be more practical than what I would’ve wanted to study (my dreams). Growing up as a JW, you’re just too protected from the outside world that nobody tells you how tough life is in reality. How difficult it is to get a job without a degree etc…

I have seen so many of my ex-JW give up their whole youth and dreams (including myself) and end up in low paid jobs. I just wonder how much potential they would’ve had, instead of filling their mind only with bible scriptures. But at the same time, I did leave the org after entering uni. I don’t think being in uni made me involved in the things I did, I blame the JW lifestyle. Too protected and not ME. When you’re too protected, you grow curiosity and rebellious attitude. When I come to think of it now, the things I did that made me disfellowshiped is just PART OF LIFE. Nothing to do with uni or the people there. I did it because that’s who I am, I’m not the type who would sit back with a long skirt thinking drinking and dating is SIN.

I remember growing up as a witness and hearing from the platform how “going off to college” was a sure way to end up disfellowshipped. My parents were very serious in their discouragement of pursuing a higher education anywhere but close to home.

I was an Honor student and graduated at the top of my class. I could have gone to any college I wanted, but I eschewed MIT and Berkley for a closer university (one that I could attend while living with my parents) and thought that I had managed to both satisfy my desire for knowledge and the congregation’s desire to protect me from the dangerous influences of college (where I would surely become a fornicator and drunkard).

Despite staying close to home, I ended up in a judicial committee meeting over something unrelated to attending school. During the judicial committee meeting, one of the Elders brought up the fact that I had decided to go to college. He used it as an example of my lack of interest in “spiritual matters” and made it clear to all in the room that he specifically held that against me when he cast his vote on the disfellowship/reprove decision. I ended up being disfellowshipped.

After being reinstated about a year later, I got into more “trouble” and had another judicial committee meeting in which the same Elder again brought up the fact that I was still pursuing higher education and noted the deleterious effect that it would have on their decision.

While the WTS claims that they want to encourage young people to “put first the kingdom” and that the pursuit of a college education will make that difficult, the truth is that their argument is totally disingenuous. I realized soon after being disfellowshipped the second time that the reason that the Watchtower Society discourages higher education is because it encourages critical thinking. The “dangers” of higher education are not those of “worldly” vices, but those of individual thought and the empowerment that comes with knowledge.

Was raped/molested at the age of 14 or 15, by my best friend’s older sister at the time. Yes i’m a man and boys get raped/molested to, it was exciting to me, i wasn’t forced, but the law calls it rape/molestation if an adult has sex with a minor, get it, she was 27.

My virginity was violated before I knew how to protect it and for what reason. Over the years I also learned how to master the art of having as much sex and dating as I can competing with my friend on how many girls can we break in a year. I was good at lying to women.

I learned from the Father of lies. I also learned how to be greedy in business, strive to make a profit for yourself and your company at all costs. Break hearts and pockets.

Started reading the Bible on my own some years ago, not agreeing with the system of things i’ve been in and agreeing with the Bible, I found exactly where I stood there. The picture didn’t look good.

I decided to believe and follow the entire bible but the churches of the world didn’t agree. I found one that did, it is called J.W’s.

What I like most about the Jehovah’s Witnesses Congregation’s? The studies, discipline, the families, the children with there parents dressed up, sharing the good news of Jehovah’s Kingdom with there families. I smile at every meeting with joy and delight.

See my friends I’ve been in the world, I know what’s out there and where it leads in the end. J.W. does have the truth, its hard especially in these last days to stick with it, I know, you want to date and do all these worldly things, but in doing so my friends, don’t knock something that works and is true, blocking others from experiencing the truth just because you want to do your own thing like Eve in the garden, she wanted to break free and do her own thing and that’s what i’m hearing from ex-jw’s. Good luck prodical people hope you find your way back in time.

As for me I’m now going all the way to become a publisher and getting baptised as a J.W.. I love every bit of the fellowship and pray to Jehovah daily that he finds me favorable to him.
askduane.

Previously I’ve looked into many other windows even entered the rooms and dwelled there a while. I’m 53 now and have been into about 20 different rooms of this house. One window i’ve looked in but didn’t go in it was called the “college room” I would have had to stay there at least 4 years and study 4 courses opposite what my major would have been in order to just study my major subject that I went there for and paid for, they said it was a requirment of the college.

I weighed the difference first. After graduation what would be the average monthly/yearly income compared to specializing in one thing now from a trade school or community college that’s 6 months to 2 years study after high school. I decided to pass on the college because the jobs and skill I learned just working everyday earned me the same in income over the years. I’ve met thousands that have major degrees unemployed now or made less money than I over the years.

Worldly pursits lead to knowwhere like the bible says. What profit is it to gain the whole world and loose your soul in the process.

Before choosing the JW window and room,I was in the world and lived the life of a fornicator, adulterer, idolary, coveteous, lieing, gluteny, drugs/alcohol, loose dating, holiday worshipping all the sins of the flesh that I now find Jehovah hates. I’ve been there first.

The stories i’m reading from every ex-jw encourges me even more that i’m doing the right thing becoming a JW full time.

Thank You ex-jw’s for showing me how important it is to put Jehovah first and not myself and the I, I, concept.

Askduane