Comments on: What helped me leave the JW Society? How to Help Someone Who’s Just Left?

By: Angel Man

Angel Man — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 08:22:15 +0000

It’s only a matter of time when God reveals the true religion.

By: DJ

DJ — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 17:40:29 +0000

My mother has been studying with the JW’s off and on,, she has recently been baptized in the society. Now she has started turning everyone away. Her husband is not a part of the Society and he has just recently realized that this is a cult, so he is trying to keep her from going to the meetings and other events with the JW. Now, she is saying that he is Satan. She is quoting Matthew 10-35,36. We recently stopped talking, I don’t understand her, she does not make sence. I don’t want to lose my mother. What do you reccomend I do?

By: Katherine Forrest

Katherine Forrest — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 13:49:09 +0000

Help me leave the J.W’S

By: Dave

Dave — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 18:16:51 +0000

One ex-JW said to me, “As hard as it was for me to get out of the Watchtower, I discovered that it was even harder to get the Watchtower out of me.” Can anyone else relate?

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 11:52:02 +0000

Hi im 17, baptised since i was 14 and brought up in the truth. For the past few months I’ve been contemplating why I am a Jehovahs Witness. I realised even though I believed a lot of it there were things I couldn’t agree on. I constantly feel guilty because I’m not a ‘perfect publisher or pioneer’. And this led me to clinical depression that I’ve had for 4 years now(apparently quite unusual at my age). I’d really just got baptised because I didnt want to loose my friends. Anyway it all reached a point last month when a guy in ‘the world’ became interested in me. I started to go out with him and realised I wasnt worthless. But the elders told me i had to break it off. I found I couldn’t do it…I didnt WANT to…It wasnt just the thought that i might never be with someone in the truth. Its the fact that ive spent all my life thinking about pleasing other people and im just so tired. So I told an elder in my congregation today I didnt want to come to meetings anymore…it was so difficult just to get the words out…I had a sheperding visit last week but they tried to persuade me back into it…get me studying with a sister I was comfortable with. I had one study and I just felt like a fraud. She is coming over today to talk about it. I then have to tell my best friend of 12 years and my sister I live with(only family member still in truth after mum, older 2 sisters and brother left…who have been very supportive recently) that I cant see them anymore. This is going to break her heart and mine too but I know what I have to do. Anyway this website has helped me to reafirm that I am about to do the right thing for myself. Wish me luck and I’ll let you know how I get on…x

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:37:24 +0000

I really would love to commend you on your journey of discovery in religion. I for myself went through such a phase and i can tell you its the most precious journey one can go on. I am a bit concerned about people being extremists. They label themselves and put themselves in boxes. Like its either you believe in evolution or you don’t. Its either you are gay or heterosexual. Its either you believe in God or you don’t. One will jump from one to the other wanting to belong to a certain group. I came to discover so many things by myself without going too much into theory. When you do this you will find the truth that is not based on extremism or self labelling. Think about it.

By: Anita

Anita — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 08:56:22 +0000

I recently fell in love with a JW and since recently breaking it off 2mo ago - for the simple fact that I started researching in my own time - I have become more and more fascinated. I have devoured 4 books, and come to sites like this and ex-JW sites everyday. I, like the person Moxie mentions above, would like to think that in some way I might be able to “plant a few seeds” over time to help him out. I am learning everything I can about mind control etc. So far, I can deduce that the very best way to get the process started is to let them know you’ll be there for them no matter what, ask questions and listen but don’t give opinions of your own (just listen, nod and smile), invite them to as many “happy, worldly occasions” as you can (but not birthdays or Christmas, or Halloween, or, or, or !!!)

Oh, and one more thing, make sure you read as many stories and posts like this as you can so you get the best understanding of what their world is like as possible. Oh AND… NEVER criticize. EVER. If they say anything critical of the Watchtower themselves, just nod, say, “I see” or ask them to explain more, but don’t agree (or start bitching… EVER). You have to let them steer their own thoughts.

I’m so determined to raise awareness of this. I knew nothing of the JWs until about 6mo ago when I met this gorgeous guy… Bugger that WT!

By: shawn gregory

shawn gregory — Mon, 26 May 2008 16:40:24 +0000

Your insight into this and research are amazing. Not all JW’s follow the rules on this, however. It seems to have lightened in recent years. Still, the point about shunning being non biblical, with broad definitions of what is ” shunnable” offense, etc, is right on. In essence, the Watchtower can decide on any topic, doctrine, or prophecy, and rule that as law to be followed. You can choose not to in your head, but thats it. You must obey. They get away with this with the ” Faithful and Discreet Slave” concept , of ultimate authority, much the same way all religions have said they are the only true reps of God, therefore are right in doing so. So, if, for example, coffee becomes a substance that they think is equal to drugs or cigarettes, they will mandate, ” No coffee”. If you dont comply, you will be cut off. Where, o where, does it say that anyone, at any time, has the ability and God given authority to add to the bible on what is a sin, and what is not?
They do this constantly. I was d f’d for asking for answers to the reams of information online about the history and flawed prophecies of the Watchtower. No answers were given, or even attempted, just, ” change your mind, or your leaving Jehovah with this kind of thinking”
It really upset me. I had given all my life to this
live and learn

By: Danny Haszard

Danny Haszard — Thu, 08 May 2008 08:14:15 +0000

Jehovah’s Witnesses are a cult because they try to cut you off from others who do not have the same beliefs, including family. Yes,you can ‘check out anytime you want but you can never leave’,because they can and will hold your family hostage.
The Watchtower is a truly Orwellian world.
The ‘message’ is their false Gospel that Jesus had his second coming already in 1914.The problem with this,is it’s not just a cute fairy tale, Jesus warned of the false prophets who would claim “..look he is here in the wilderness,or see here he is at the temple”
The Watchtower’s Gospel “kingdom” is a man-made “different version”.(Gal.1:8)
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Danny Haszard born 1957 as a 3rd generation Jehovah’s Witness http://jehovahwitness.vox.com/